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November 15, 2018

Go ahead and think negatively!

I posted this tip last November and it continuously comes up in conversation. It seems people struggle with positive thinking quite a lot. I don’t like seeing them suppressing the gloomies, before they’ve learned what they should. Of course on the flip side, there’s also a time to get back to a Pollyanna state of mind.

So I’ve dug this one out of my bag of tricks, dusted it off, and I’m firing it over to you again.

Let me know what you think of it (even if it’s negative).



Constructive thinking beats positive thinking

Our attitude is the one thing in life we can fully control. We can be a victim of circumstances, or victorious over them, by choosing our own mental outlook. Our frame of mind can set us up for expectations of success, which leads us in that direction, enables good decisions, and often comes to fruition. A positive disposition shows in our character, and attracts more of the same sort of people into our life.

However, many of us confuse “positive thinking” with “wishful thinking,” which ultimately is just a temporary mask covering our true thoughts and leaving us emotionally stuck.

The term “constructive thinking” may be more suitable, because it implies open mindedness and growth. We all have hardships in life, we can choose to manage them constructively, learn from them and grow mentally stronger. Constructive thinkers are aware of negativity, use it to assess and work through underlying problems, and then let it go when it’s no longer useful. They are careful about what they allow to manifest in their brain. They choose thoughts that build strength and lead to growth.

Take action: Everything that seems doom and gloom has an optimistic, hopeful and positive side to it as well. Definitely challenge yourself to find the sunny side, but also take the time necessary to deal with the negative feelings. Accept them, mentally process them, learn from them, and as soon as they no longer serve you, then let them go and get back to positivity.

:: Inspired by Hal Urban’s book, Life’s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things that Matter.



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