Learning something new is hard and takes time and dedication; whether it be a new wellness habit, a baseball swing, or how to present well to a group. It’s tempting to compare ourselves to others who make it look easy, but we may only be seeing their polished abilities. We need to take into consideration what we haven’t witnessed – the hours and effort they’ve put into practicing and improving. This behind-the-scenes view is not commonly accessible, so many of us just ignore it and assume that others are just naturally good at things. But none of us are born an expert, we all have to put the work in. To learn a new skill, it helps to break it down into easy, manageable steps, and be patient with our selves. These stages should build on the previous and may require the help of an instructor, who can separate the process into learning blocks for us. Make the steps attainable with incremental measurements along the way. For instance, when learning a baseball swing, getting used to keeping our eye on the ball is a good first step. Once making consistent contact with the ball (the measurement), we can move on to learning to transfer our weight through our swing, while still consistently hitting the ball. Many experienced people who aren’t used to teaching, will call out multiple instructions all at once, so it’s important to plan out our learning steps before we get up to bat.
Take action: Take a learning goal you have, and mark on a calendar when you want to have accomplished each step towards it. Be sure to make the steps achievable and realistic so that the process is sustainable. Adjust the goal marker dates if a step is easier than expected, or takes longer to learn.