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2020 is the year of vision. Visualizing who we want to become and what characteristics we want to take on, can be more effective long-term than focusing on goals. The vision sets direction without controlling specifics.
One of my nieces recently said she wants to be more adventurous. Good news for me – I held her to it and made her come surfing with me. She liked it!
This week’s tip, talks about how what we do regularly, defines who we are. In reverse, if we think about the identity we desire, we can work backwards and start doing the actions that support those characteristics.
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All the best to you in 2020,
Our identity is shaped by our habits.
Habits, reps and sets, rituals – the things we do on a regular basis, are the actions that define who we are. These actions are so completely integrated into our lives that they become ubiquitous and are often overlooked. They can be small and seem insignificant, however, since we do them repetitively, they are central in shaping who we are, who we become, and our overall identity.
For example, a health enthusiast's morning routine may include gulping down a glass of water, grabbing some protein and doing some exercise. Someone family-oriented might wake up snuggling with kids, and follow that with jumping on the bed or a pillow fight. A businessperson might grab a coffee, check the stock market and read the news.
It’s these daily routines, not just in the morning but through the whole day, that add up to our identity. Take a moment to consider, “Who do I want to be? What characteristics do I want to use to describe myself?”
Once we determine those answers, then we can make sure our rituals match our self-characterization, and ensure that what we do consistently, lines up with our values. If who we want to become is really important to us, and we adjust aspects of our regular actions to align with the attributes of that ideal self, we’ll eventually obtain that identity.
Take action: In general, what is your daily routine? Write it down and compare it with others. Find people who you want to emulate and get familiar with their rituals. See if you can spend some time shadowing them, and then take the aspects that fit your ideal self, and adjust your habits to head in that direction.
Inspired by Tony Robbins Youtube video, New Year, New You.